mylifeasastayathomemom

Ok here it goes. I am a stay at home mom of a 14 month old son ( hense the child like writing). Don’t get me wrong I love my career as a SAHM( stay at home mom) but when they say it’s a thankless job …yes, yes it’s true. Let’s move on.

Well my idea of writing this blog came from lack of adult interaction. I was a salesperson for about 10 yrs. I learned alot, good and bad. Good business practice but how bad the average consumer can be. You think oh I will teach my child to respect others , you know the old saying “treat someone as you would like to be treated”. Wow if that’s the case with some people , they need help fast. I mean they think just because your ” serving ” them they can be as nasty as they want. But then when those peolpe leave I get irritated and I have to make myself let that situation go and tell myself “hey if they treat me like that then they must be absolutely miserable with their life”. But any way in the future we’ll get back to that.

Back to the title life after the birth of a mom. This isn’t just about the birth or adoption of a baby. I also believe that you become a mom when you get into a serious relationship. When I married my hubby about 4 1/2 yrs ago, I thought I was marring an adult , a 28 yr. old man, not the case. Most if not all people in a serious relationship an relate. Why I say serious relationship, I’ll get back to that also, in future. I had to become the segregate mom of my hubby. He has a mom who loves him and raised him, at least I thought. Don’t get me wrong I know she did her job but just because his mom basically had to work to pay for two kids , he feels he raised himself. And sometimes he feels his Mimmi (Grandma) raised him, which is part of the truth also. What isn’t in his vobulary is lazy, he expects me to say that for him. He is not aware ,after all of our little household classes ,the  hamper, kitchen sink, or the trash can are. He is convinced that the dishes, trash and clothes just magically appear back in their proper spots. The best part of all this is that if I confront him on this subject  he says one of two things, that I should go take an antidepressant because I ‘m just over reacting or that he worked 10 hrs that day and he deserves a break. Well I agree everyone deserves a break , I mean everyone! I like to respond back to that I would like him to find a butler, a nanny and a maid do all the things I do, not pay them and not give them a break. What is my time worth? Yeah I do it because I love my family but when it is put to you in that way you start putting on a defense of all you do. Occasionally he changes a diaper, takes out trash, makes a meal. I appretiate that when he does do those things but it is few and far between. 

I don’t want you to think I don’t love my hubby or my child or my life. But sometimes a walk away from reality does wonders. This is just my way of venting  to complete strangers who won’t judge , won’t ask question. Sometimes you just need to let it out. And I did.

There’s more coming, like it or hate it . This won’t just be about motherhood or marriage or always complaining. It’s about life’s observations , what I see, think , hear , feel.  Just to talk! This will be more organized as far as thoughts in the future but I just had to get a little out there of a lot of living!

Please be well and come visit again.

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